Entrainment, Family Connection and Call of Duty?

Entrainment is something I’m going to start talking a lot about because it’s what’s coming in for me to share. I’m going to start putting practical information on here about how to open the connection to the upper mind. You can call it whatever you want – Psi-mind, psychic abilities, the ethers (yea, what Einstein was talking about) consciousness…whatever viewpoint works for you, the words don’t matter. Entrainment is basically the program. As in get with THE PROGRAM. All this stuff is happening all around us all the time. Period. Dispute it or not, it doesn’t matter to me. Here’s how you get to it if you choose. For some it’s easy, for others too difficult. It’s as easy or as hard as you want it to be. But it is absolutely obtainable.

Entrainment (biomusicology), the synchronization of organisms to an external rhythm. Entrainment (chronobiology), the alignment of a circadian system’s period and phase to the period and phase of an external rhythm.

I’m going to challenge the definition and push it a little. The Entrainment I’M talking about is the synchronization of organisms to an INTERNAL RHYTHM. We all have it. And you know what we do with it? We hide it, we cover it up, we pay attention to ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING BUT THIS RHYTHM.

WHY? Because it’s easy. There are so many deterrents from THE PURPOSE that pull our attention away. Facebook, Netflix, The View, any given bullshit news channel (both sides, I’m not picking favorites here), fake celebrity news, ANY housewives reality show, really – it all has a name: ENTERTAINMENT. Such similar words with such different meanings. When did we have to start being ENTERTAINED 24/7? what is all of this crap CONTRIBUTING to our existence? Does it enrich us? No, it keeps us from our true nature – it keeps us from ENTRAINMENT. Keeps us from THE PURPOSE. So what can we do?

TURN OUR ATTENTION to what matters. Real Relationships, Family, Friendships. I’m going to use family as the example here. Are your family experiences rich? Are you creating memories with the people in your home? I’m going to start posing what may be some hard questions here, but this is what I’m here for so keep reading or close the page. It’s your choice. I’m also going to give some solutions, you can start small and build on them. So I’m not just going to call you out and leave you hanging. I’ll even give you some examples to work with – some things that have worked for me/my family and continue to work for me in real time.

When you have a conversation with someone – actually listen to and care about what they are saying. Don’t just be thinking about what you are going to say next.

This is an asshole move that a lot of us do all of the time. But dude, don’t do it to your family. How many times have you been telling (insert loved one here) a story and they just
walk out of the room? Yea, remember how that feels? Don’t do it to other people. It sucks. For GOD’S SAKE don’t do this to your kids. Even if it starts with a 5 minute conversation – that is a real interaction – that’s a win. Take it.

Talk about things the other person is interested in, even if you aren’t.

You may be thinking – Why? Because it ENGAGES the other person and they want to share what they enjoy, even if they won’t admit it. Here’s an example of what I’m talking about from my personal experience. My son plays MINECRAFT. He also plays FIFA and CALL OF DUTY. None of which I was interested in. But you know what I AM interested in? MY SON.

So something interesting happened – back when he was playing Minecraft like a fiend – literally this game is like crack to kids – he would build these elaborate places, buildings, scenes out of nothing. As I was walking by he’d stop me and say “Mom, look at this.” and show me a little something he had made, like a cart on an elaborate track that goes all through his structures and underground, actually some pretty cool and creative stuff. I’d actually take the time to SIT DOWN and look at it and have a quick conversation about it with him. What started as quick conversations became longer ones, which included, “what are those shuffling things?” “How do you keep from forgetting where all your stuff is?”He was Engaging me and in turn we were Interacting. That was a first step. He saw I showed interest, and began engaging me more and more. If I hadn’t shown interest, he would have stopped. But soon he was building these elaborate scenes FOR me. To show and share with me. It made me feel special, and I know it made him feel special too. Sometimes he’d call me in to watch something when I was busy, but I always made sure to let him know I’d be there as soon as I was done, and I wouldn’t forget. FOLLOW THROUGH is a big part of Entrainment, disappointment is a backslide. So if you are going to start practicing entrainment, it’s ok to start small. But make sure you follow through. And sometimes things don’t stick and that’s ok too. Alex tried to teach me how to play Call of Duty. He said, “It sure would be fun if we could play together, Mom.” Now WHAT 13 year old boy wants to play Call of Duty with his mom? Yea, it’s pretty rad. But I suck at Call of Duty. It makes me dizzy, especially split screen, when I see someone I just start firing like crazy, and end up getting killed. Alex is yelling at me to shoot this guy or that guy or to go left, and I’m yelling back that I CAN’T while my guy is spinning in circles and I just suck at it. We end up laughing so hard we can’t even play, but playing isn’t the point. He still asks me to play sometimes, but we just laugh and I’ll sit down and just watch him for a while. Still engaging, just not interactively – which is ok too.

OK so all for now. Entrainment is a way of life, start somewhere. Engage, start at home. START WHERE YOU ARE. And don’t judge your interactions. Ask questions and wait for the answers, don’t be just thinking of yourself and what you want to say next. A lot of Entrainment is focusing on others, instead of yourself. And it’s freaking refreshing to do once you get used to it. Here’s something else to think about – a HUGE accessory that we have come so connected to that is trumping Entrainment on a ridiculously regular basis. So I’m going to say it, and just straight on address it.

FOR GOD’S SAKE GET OFF OF YOUR GOD DAMN TABLET, IPHONE, FACEBOOK ETC.

And yes, I’m yelling. And yes, I do it too, but I’m doing better. Alex still plays Playstation, just not ALL THE TIME. When you DISCONNECT and instead ENTRAIN a funny thing happens, the more you disconnect from technology and connect with people, the less you miss technology. I’ve started having Phone Free Sundays and it’s refreshing. Liberating. And I’m not here to judge ANYONE, I’m just here to say there is a different way. If everyone in your family is in separate rooms all of the time on devices, or just as bad, all in the same room, but on devices – there are opportunities for Entrainment that are just passing you by. So PUT DOWN YOUR DEVICES and Interact with your family. Even if it’s just to all put your attention towards something – like a TV show you all watch together every week, start there. Then try having a conversation about it. A big part of Entrainment is REPETITION. There is a time and a place for everything, the time for devices is not ALL OF THE TIME. Put that shit DOWN! Disconnect SO you can Engage. In person. Personally. An interesting thing that happens is you may learn something new about the person you are interacting with, or about the topic around which you are interacting. Or about yourself. Either way, it’s spending time together and that’s a WIN/WIN, a win for you, and a win for the other person, then a collective win too. Pretty Awesome.

Do you have an entrainment story you would like to add that works for you? If so please share it in the comments.